Handling Divorced Families

Within Breeze, individuals (including children) can only be tied to one family unit. Understandably, the divorced family scenario can be a little more complex, especially if both divorced parents are attending the same church. 

Recommendation for best practice is to keep the children attached to the primary parent family unit. We realize that some children live with both parents half-time and that the "primary family unit" isn't always a perfect solution. If communication to both parents is desired, you are able to record two email addresses in the child's "email" profile field. When emailing, use "To the Parents of" and insert the mail merge for the child's first name.

Another option would be to create a "Parent" tag and email the parents through that tag each time. This would allow you to create your own list of people and they would not have to all be in the same family.

Click here to read more about how family units operate in Breeze.

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  • Do you have a suggestion for how to handle a name change for the divorced spouse?  We would like to have some sort of record of the former name, for searches, and neither Nickname nor Maiden name really does this trick.  Thanks!

  • @bonnie

    If you're trying to keep record of a former name, then the suggestion here would be to add a custom profile field to contain that data! See here: Customizing Profile Fields


  • I do wish you could make this work so we can see all of them, this is causing us a lot of extra work. I have no idea who the children live with and we really need to be able to go to the child's record and see they have connection to both parent without workarounds and tags. We are dealing with college students and this is not easy as it would be for a child. We have three different addresses, parent 1, parent2 and college student if they are not living at home. 

  • Hi @njatcko,

    Thank you for raising this concern. I realize how complicated it must be dealing with workarounds regarding divorced parents, extra addresses, etc. I apologize for all the extra work it has caused you and your church.

    While I'm unable to give any sort of timeline on when this might be improved, I'm happy to pass your message along to the right people. 

    Thanks again for your patience in this, and if you need anything else don't hesitate to reach us at support@breezechms.com

  • Hello Breeze wizards. I want to add my voice to those requesting a revision that allows for children to be associated with two parents who are not married -- for each record to have the option of "Add a 2nd family," with its own picture that would display separately in directory exports, etc. Sadly this limitation just adds to the inconvenience and stigma of divorce and separation, particularly when it comes to printed directory. I'll submit a feature request for sure! 

  • Hey @brian, thank you so much for submitting that feedback. Feature requests is the exact right way for our team to keep track of feedback here. We realize that this is hard on our churches and we need to find a better way to make this happen for our churches in the future. Thank you so much for your understanding and I appreciate you reaching out!